“Savior” Misappropriation - Scam Alert
After a lot of observation, I realize why many relationships
are doomed before they can bloom into anything that produces fruit in the relationship
needed to sustain its bond. For a myriad
of reasons we, have allowed ourselves to get the order of things, out of
order. Both men and women, but mainly
women tend to find ourselves (yes, me included); with a “Savior”
mentality. But, we look for the Savior
in the wrong place(s).
The man is invaluable to our lives as that “missing piece”
needed to round-out our fantasies and lives, this we know and what makes our
world’s go around, regardless of what we “say”, we don’t want or need. I don’t need a root canal and because I don’t,
I don’t make mention of it. If you are
bringing up the point that you don’t “need a man or a woman”, because it cuts
both ways, then you are actually the one who wants one the most or else you
wouldn't keep bringing up the topic.
The word Savior is
reserved for the one and only – Jesus
Christ. He is our Savior and he aligns the rest of our lives from that starting
point. I see a lot of misery in people
because their expectations are that once they find that special someone or they
finally marry that soul-mate, they put more value and time into that person and
not the lover and keeper of their souls. Never lose sight of where that
blessing came from. Had it not been for
the Lord on our side…? That man or woman
is just that – them - people. They can’t
be everything that you need for them to be, no matter how hard they try, they
will fail – they will fall short of our expectations of them and vice
versa. You are setting yourself up for
failure if you think that they can save
you. No one has all the answers or all
they ways to make you happy – God does but we don’t want to trust him
unconditionally but put that burden of a mere human being and wonder why we
keep getting let down. You are giving
the power to a being that is unable to handle what it is that has been giving
to them, they are incapable of doing what God can and must do for you.
We are relational beings and seek out friendships and relationships
from the time we enter into this world.
However, the Pastor, our spouses, our friends or even family can’t stand
in stead of the place that is reserved for Christ and Christ Jesus alone. No one can do for us what God can do and that
place of highest reverence needs to
be reserved and observed for only
him.
All relationships are battle-tested; especially marriage
because it is in direct correlation to how we are to be with God – dedication, fidelity,
trust and honor. Our training in God is
what trains us for the nuptials. If you
can’t be faithful to the things of God, then how will you learn to be faithful
in any other area of your life? God
wastes nothing.
At times we find ourselves boiling hot and anger kindled at
our loved ones; in the same token, we find ourselves sometimes even mad with
God, although we wouldn't like to admit that to anyone, even ourselves. But, those who know how good he is and has
been, quickly repent and get back
into fellowship because we know that his best intentions are towards us. We can't scam God and think that we will
receive his blessings and he not receive his Glory.
If you want to save
yourself a lot of headaches and from having hang-ups when it comes to the
matter of the heart – lean to not to your own understanding and in all your
ways acknowledge God and stop asking something of other people that you are
unable to give yourself. Yes, we all
like to think of ourselves and the perfect help-meet or provider, but we all
have faults and shortcomings and when we esteem another person as the end-all be-all of our lives, we are only
setting ourselves up for failure because our living and being is in God the
Father alone. It is indeed a blessing to
find that love of our lives, and it
eludes many for this very reason we discuss today.
There is one Savior and his name if Christ Jesus. In that is where you find the peace and the love that you are searching for and
everything else of value and purpose in life flows from that vine down to our
branches.
