"Fattigue"

This morning I am off on a tangent and I pray that I find the ears for who needs to hear this and to be set free.  But I sense that I am not alone in my sentiments and I pray that this spurs a move for actual change and not just a shift in the atmosphere of curvy culture.

I don t know – maybe it’s me but I am experiencing “fattigue” (yes, I made the word up but it’s so apropos).  Not of the positive body images of curvy women adorning subway cars or movements of #DropThePlus or #ImNoAngel but rather the debate that comes along with the commentary after each photog curvy campaign.  We are perpetuating a stereotype that we are in need of type of reassurance that we as “curvy” belong in mainstream society and that we fill the need to justify who we are.  Why do we need a champion? There is only one Savior and he came, died, was buried and resurrected some time ago.  I didn't know that we were running a political campaign to be accepted into society.  I was already here – we already existed.  Or are you one of those people who needed validation from an outside source to know that you are as fatabulous as you want to be? 

If we make society, try to force them to say that “Big is Beautiful “, would it be genuine, if you had to force your partner to compliment you; would it really be from the heart and received with joy?  Wherein is the intrinsic value of what you believe about yourself?  The illustrious Katt Williams said it best and I quote “it’s called self-esteem”, “esteem of oneself”.  Of course he used more colorful words but you get the gist. 

There have been many of us out here holding our own for years as fatabulous women and we knew that our worth was more than what another may have once thought about us.  Thoughts come a dime a dozen, and negative comments a baker’s dozen, but they may come in with one opinion but will leave with an entirely different mindset by the time the evaluation is complete - Becoming certified-fatabulous.

Question: Do you believe what is being said about you, rather harmless or intentional shaming?  Hold only yourself accountable for how your life will play out; not the media, not strangers, friends, family or foe.  If you don t, you are bound to become a Beauty-EYECON or an American EYE-DULL.

Don’t be a con or dull when it comes to how you express yourself to the public.